My dying friend went on a sex adventure. She felt alive

The show is inspired by the extremely successful podcast of friends, who was told by Boyer and who died in March 2019 in March 2019 in March 2019.

Frank, funny and profound, it was an immediate hit in the release in February 2020 and has been downloaded over five million times since then. The memoirs Molly wrote from her deathbed, Screw cancer: become whole was published in August and fulfilled her lifelong dream to become a published author. “The Ripple effect was amazing,” says Boyer, 49, producer in the TV series, who spoke to me to me about zoom from her house near Palm Springs, California.

Kochhan knew that there was interest in her story – Hernan Lopez, then the CEO of Wonnyy, which is now Amazon’s Podcast Studio, personally gave her series the green light in her hospital. But Boyer says: “I don’t think she had any idea how deep it would end up in the world. She always said that sex felt like the opposite to death.

The couple met in 2000 in an acting course in Los Angeles, in which both lived. Kochhan was “a bit like a wall flowers” from New York. “She didn’t like me very much because I was annoying and probably grew up for the attention of everyone,” says Boyer, who grew up in St. Louis, Missouri. If her drama teacher hadn’t paired her, she says: “I don’t know if Molly and I found the friend of the other.”

Jenny Slate as Boyer and Michelle Williams as a cook in dying for sex

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As it was, they became inseparable. Boyer was at Kochhan when she met the man who became her husband, a waiter in one of her favorite cafes. “They were great together for a while.” In the TV series he is called Steve and is played by Jay Duplass. Boyer does not use its real name. “I think he is probably fighting with parts of the story that did not feel that they had a match what he experienced. I take care of him. I wish him so much love.”

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The friends even shared the same doctor, who had found the lump that Kochan found in her chest in 2005, and she was too young at 33 to have cancer. “My naive brain at the time (thought), he has to know best, he is a doctor,” says Boyer. Kochhan, who started a blog when she found out that her cancer was incurable, wrote about this date: “I was meek, I was afraid of saying myself, and frankly I probably didn’t want to know that it was something.” When she was finally diagnosed in 2011, cancer had spread to her lymph nodes.

Previously, Kochan Boyer had announced that she and her husband had sexual “difficulties” that she had hoped for. Under chemotherapy and radiation, a double mastectomy and a breast reconstruction did not allow an “active, exciting sex life,” says Boyer.

After the treatment she made steerable, Kochan believed that the disease was behind her until she had announced in 2015.

In the middle of Kochans was anger despite. “I’m not ready to die,” blogs her. Instead, she focused on how she wanted to live. Within six months she had left her husband to “look for joy”, she wrote: “(and) self -expression that I could not find in the context of my marriage”. Your decision “made sense,” says Boyer. “I was thrilled for her.”

When her hormone treatment unexpectedly made “all the time horny” and could not sleep, she began her sexual adventures, took her in lingerie and sent her to men who met her online, to “distract me from pain or illness”.

Boyer says of her friend: “I am so proud of her. She only lived the life she wanted to live.”

Her sexual experiences in the Fänden offered an even bigger distraction. The first was with a screenwriter of Twentysomething. After their date in a La bar, they deceived in the back seat of his car when he, overwhelmed and panicked, opened the door and had reached outside on the flawless lawn outside. “Every time I drive past, I think, oh, he’s …” Boyer broke out in uncontrollable laughter.

The location of the poor man got worse, because at that moment “the car alarm starts”, continues, and describes the presentation of the unadiving incident in the TV series as “one of my favorite scenes”.

As a cooking grew, she met more men who are interested in Knicks and Fetish and largely for the series in a character, played as a “neighboring guy”, played by Rob Delaney, for the series. This includes the date on which Kohan entered the testicles. No high heel fan, she bought stilettos in particular, recalls Boyer and then admits the strange Twinges of the court. “She was just open. There was a man who wanted to be in her house like a dog in a cage (Molly said) I am so interested in learning Why.’ I (said) ‘what the hell?’ ”

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In the homes of strangers, it was “a risk that they wanted to take,” says Boyer, and Kochan “in situations that were not great,” Kochhan inevitably brought about. Some data lodged about being married – “Molly didn’t want a part of it” – and some could “be a little aggressive. She learned about her wishes and security in real time.

Kochans Gallows Humor rang continuously. When she explained in the podcast, she was not worried that she had strangers who met her online. “What will you do to me? Do you kill me? I die.”

After Boyer, who had enjoyed in a happy long -term relationship with the musician Tommy Fields, whose two daughters, who helps, had enjoyed in a happy long -term relationship in her twenties, whose long -term relationship was, were not jealous. But she says: “I had quiet sex in the bedroom, so we didn’t woke up the children. It was far from what Molly was doing.”

Sex was also a way for Kochan to regain her body. In her memoir, she wrote that at the age of seven she was abused by a friend of her divorced mother Joan (played by Sissy Spacek in the TV series), destroyed her self-confidence and caused her to suppress her sexuality. In marriage, she had been looking for a “safe space” from this trauma, says Boyer, but felt increasingly locked up.

“Many people think:” She only has sex to feel good, “says Boyer about the after-diagnosis escapades after the diagnosis.” But it was not just about it. There was the healing of old wounds. She felt fragmented on her life and during sex she was allowed to make her own decisions and put the parts together for herself. “

Some of Kochans many connections – she and Boyer stopped counting for months at 183. “She was seen and looked around the people. It was much more than sex for Molly,” says Boyer. “Towards the end, I think she was looking for love.”

And although she never found a man who swept her off her feet, Kochhan wrote: “I realize that I could fall in love. I’m in love. In me.”

After she had been admitted to the hospital at the end of 2018 and found that she would not go home, she called her mother, with whom her relationship “always finished and flowed,” says Boyer. “They loved themselves so much, but sometimes they needed space. Her mother didn’t leave her bed. It was a wonderful healing process for her.”

Boyer was together with Kochan during her entire cancer trip

On March 8, 2019 at 11:30 p.m., Boyer slept on a chair next to her girlfriend, whose hand on the leg Kochan’s leg when she felt under her fingers. “I woke up with just enough time for her last two breaths. I put my hand on her head and my other hand on her heart. I said: ‘I am here, I have you.’ At that moment I was in awe in front of her.

Boyer put together the six -part podcast after her death, “because I was still working with her voice. I felt like I was going.” Kochhan had left her computer and telephone as a reference: “This is the most vulnerable thing to do,” she says. “I saw every Molly phase. I saw her sexy myself. I saw her sick. I scroll hundreds of news. I saw more tail pictures than I ever thought possible.”

Boyer believes Kohan is enthusiastic about Williams’ casting, Star of Brokeback Mountain And The biggest showman. “Hollywood legend, picky about their projects, artistic, private. Molly would have been:” Yes, thank you “.

The series plays more in New York than in Los Angeles, and the producers have taken “freedoms” with timelines and characters, says Boyer. “But it feels very much like me and Molly, the core of us. There is a scene in which the friends are in bed and Molly has their hand on Nikki’s boob and says: ‘It feels like a hot cup of tea.’ That is true.

Molly would have been enthusiastic, she says. “I am so proud of her. She only lived the life she wanted to live, and it was so much bigger than I could have imagined.”
Die for sex Is on Disney+ from April 4th