People share tea with their rich in-laws

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“We didn’t get married, but I dated a woman from a much wealthier background than myself for about five years – and we thought we would get married. …Your family didn’t like me from day one and never gave me a chance. It was a really strong aversion; they constantly made fun of what I was used to eating…and they regularly went to the city’s most upscale restaurants. They didn’t really want to talk to me at the dinner table. Rather, they talked to each other, and when I expressed their opinion, they looked at me in silence and continued. This was ironic in my opinion because I was actually the most educated person at the table with two college degrees. Yet they always acted as if I had nothing of value to say.

“They refused to treat my mother like a person, they wouldn’t help anyone, they had this weird thing where they were incredibly rich but refused to make enough food for the table, they treated their two adult children like Twelve year olds.”, they had poor hygiene, etc.

For my part, my girlfriend didn’t visit my family house often. She didn’t like the commute. When she did this, she would make a mess in the kitchen and never clean up, etc. I could tell she was judging what we were eating. When we invited her parents to come to our suburb and eat some Thai food, they hired a driver because they didn’t want to drive to that area themselves (it’s not remotely dangerous, it’s incredibly inconspicuous)…and she The whole time at dinner they mentioned how surprised they were that someone was in the restaurant and how surprised they were that the food was good. They also had a habit of treating waiters like robots – “Get this, get that” without looking them in the eye.

This one time my ex’s parents went to Italy for a month and didn’t bother to check if they had enough food left for their dog. My ex can’t drive and I was out of state, so my sweet mother drove to the other side of town, bought the food, drove it to the house and drove home. It was a $200 bag of groceries, mind you. Her parents never thanked her or offered repayment. That’s the general mood.

…Basically, being in a long-term relationship with me seemed to bring tension into her damn elite family, and it made me hesitant to date someone from that background again, which I know is irrational, but God, was hers Family the worst.”

–u/ProblematicDonDraper