Tamron Hall is okay with her “conservative parenthood”.

Hello, it is mercy, editor -in -chief of the parents. Welcome to my two -week column, in which I will have conversations with well -known personalities who share their experiences with this trip called Parenthood.

Grace Bastidas, editor -in -chief

When Tamron Hall in Luling, Texas, grew up, her parents did not play when it came to respect. “I was grew up by a phenomenal mother and a beautiful stepfather, but they were very, very strict,” says the TV presenter. “You couldn’t question anything.” And while Tamron gives her son Moses, 5, much more autonomy, she firmly believes in borders. “I want him to have an agency that pronounces, but I also want him to understand respect.” For this purpose, she uses time-outs when Moses is in a “spicy mood”, as she calls it. “People see this as a conservative parenting these days, but I agree to it,” she tells me. “It works for me and my child.”

I think many parents try to span this limit between the enforcement of the rules and the mediation of their children. Tell me the last time you came up with a break.

We were at dinner and he said: “I don’t sit down. I leave this restaurant.” I said, “We all sit together. Please sit down.” And he said, “No.” He is 5. So we went into the bathroom and I gave him a break. I said, “You have to stand there for three minutes.” People came in and out. And after three minutes I said: “Let’s go.” It doesn’t always work, but we’ll take a break, even if we are on the go.

The last time when parents interviewed them, Moses was a youthful baby. How have you changed since then?

I have developed in the sense of what is important. And I don’t think that in this cliché: “Family means that the world is for me and the work on the background”. I don’t mean that at all. Pre-mose, things felt enormous and I had to meet certain expectations, but I have learned that life gives them a second or third chance in most things. This gave me a greater perspective, which is really important. And my greatest responsibility is this child who helps me.

Congratulations on your new Harlem Honey children’s book: the adventures of a curious child. It was inspired by Moses and focuses on a boy who changes from Texas to Harlem, New York and has to adjust to his new home.

It is a festival of curiosity and an opportunity for parents, aunts, uncle and grandparents to talk about fears. How do you confront your fear? My child is a slow burner. As soon as he is in the room, it is full of explosion, but it takes time to get him to say hello. I often feel socially awkward or are afraid to go into a room. Although I live my life on TV when they catch me at a party, I’m probably like the mouse in the corner. And when I had my son, I recognized some of the same characteristics that we describe as shy. I was deeply challenged how to raise a child who is really careful, but also fed the curiosity.

So you wrote a book about it! This is incredible. How do you practice self -compassion?

I train at home. I don’t book a boot camp dates. But I pull out my mat. I love to have a meditation window in the morning and at night. I pray before I step out of bed before I move. I not only pray for my family, but for people I will never meet because we are all connected. Before I go out of the doors of my talk show, I ask the universe for words that reach people, whether these words should entertain or inspire.

You balance a big job with motherhood. How do you separate the connection?

Cooking has become very therapeutic for me. I cook the dinner four or five times a week from which people are shocked, but I have before. I love sitting for dinner. It doesn’t always work synchronously. Sometimes Moses has to start a little earlier, but I agree to this imperfection. Don’t let it be perfect to be the enemy of the good. I love this sentence because life is good and it is good, even if it is challenging. And I’m no longer looking for this perfect formula professionally or personally.

One last thought

Let this be a lesson for all of us. The aim for perfection shouldn’t be the goal. It is completely unrealistic and prepares us for failure. I love the idea of ​​”good enough” as a form of self -compassion. Especially when we want to raise children who understand that it is okay to make mistakes as long as we can further develop from them. Here it is to let go of high expectations and enjoy life a little more.